Influence no one to do wrong

I suppose a sufi seldom consciously wants to influence anybody to do wrong. But I suppose wrongdoing starts by influencing the thoughts and attitudes of another?
To watch my words in every situation - even when I am so frustrated that I feel I could explode, is a good beginning :-))

The chinese say that the words that come out of your mouth, enter the ears of another. And every word spoken must finish its task, says Murshid...

Next time I will explode very silently - behind the closed door at my office.

Bear no malice against your worst enemy

15 years ago they went through a painful divorce. We say: "On the other side of love one sometimes find hatred"......

He couldn't understand why she left. Instead of being his beloved wife, she became a terrifying devil. No common sense could reach him, and he despised their love. 
His love turned to hate - Her love was put on a hard trial....
 
Finally she realized that she could only connect to his spiritual being. Every day she offered the same prayer: Let us be friends instead of foes, and let your hate again turn into love!
Slowly the conditions started to change, and after 15 years and many sufferings, he was finally ready to turn hatred to love.